Are you tired of being told that
you and your life doesn’t fit the mould that society expects? I know that I am. Being expected to look a certain way, act a
certain way; have all the same views as others; to “fit in”. I have
HAD IT.
It is a pack mentality; the
trouble being that the pack is far too large with too many commentators. Any individuality you possess can be crushed
under the weight of it. The mob (aka
Daily Mail readers and their ilk) will criticise you for any breaks of the rules
that they perceive to be set in stone.
So what rules of society do I
break?
- I am still single in my thirties.
- I don’t have children (nor do I want them)
- I am fat and happy.
- I don’t dress the way that many deem that I should.
- I am not afraid to say what I think when I am passionate about something.
- I have no inclination to “fit it” for the sake of it.
What society would tell me that I
am, gleaned from this list is that:
- I am left on the shelf
- I’m lying to myself about not wanting children but everyone does
- I am fat and thereby it is inconceivable that I could be happy
- I am wearing clothes they don’t want to see me in
- I am too outspoken.
I don’t care.
Life is about choice, not
conformity and the fact that I don’t fit into society’s little “how to be” box
no longer bothers me.
My ducks will never be all lined
neatly in a row. I don’t even have any
damn ducks; although I do aim to dress like a peacock. My path in life is not straight and clear; it
is winding with complicated intersections and although I have fallen off it at
times; it has always been there to take me in another direction.
One day I would like to meet
someone to share the rest of my days with, to get married and be happy. That day will either come or it won’t, but I
won’t think that my life is ruined if it doesn’t happen. I am not “left on the shelf” because I was
never for sale.
Today is the day that I choose to
stop listening to society. I will no
longer read the Daily Fail which is full of nothing but hatred, body snarking
and vile views. I will no longer judge
myself as society says that I should, just because I am single. I will no longer let others views affect how
I lead my life nor have an impact on how happy I am.
I will skip down the path that is
growing day by day under my feet. I have
no idea where it leads but one thing I do know is that I am going to make damn
sure that the journey is fun.
I love this post! Fuck conforming. xx
ReplyDeleteI bloody love this post, Vicky! You have such a great attitude to life! I break the same 6 rules (although I'm not 30 til next year), and I've no desire to fit the mould, either. We should not have to conform to a particular way of living; we're not robots, we're not manufactured! What's right for one isn't necessarily right for another, and people should respect that. xx
ReplyDeleteLove this post everyone is really shocked I don't particularly want kids as i work with them, like other peoples and have a husband x
ReplyDeleteGreat post, don't change for anybody! x
ReplyDeleteFab post. I can heartily say "me too!"
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