When you’ve been
living with a guy for two to three years, sometimes he can get stuck
in his ways and used to the fact that you’re around all of the
time. You’re ready and waiting for him to pop the question, but it
seems like he hasn’t even thought of it — so why not drop a few
hints to your man so that he knows that you’re truly ready to
become engaged?
Together with
Angelic Diamonds, retailers of bespoke engagement rings, we can advise on how to point your
husband-to-be in the direction of a big proposal.
Keep your friends close, but your married friends closer
Married friends will
help show your other half that marriage has its ups and downs, but
this commitment shown through other people will help him envision
this with you. Although men who have parents that are divorced
sometimes struggle to trust this commitment, replacing negative
feelings with positive ones in this type of environment may help to
bring him around to your way of thinking.
Remember you are his friend, as well as his partner
Sometimes when
you’re in a relationship, you can fall into assigned roles and forget that you are not just partners, but friends as well. If you’re constantly being left
behind for the guys to do all the things he considers fun, then this is going to put a strain on his
ability to propose and take you seriously.
Get him involved in your hobbies and take more interest in his. Acknowledge that you both need time for your friends, but that you both started out as friends too. Do things together. Have fun and remember what interests you have in common. If you can be part of his whole life, rather
than just someone he spends time with, then he’ll feel like you’re
indispensable. Once you get to this point in your relationship, then
he’ll feel like proposing, as he can’t spend his time without
you!
Don't let things go stale
It is easy to get complacent in a relationship and start taking each other for granted. Although many don’t
like to do this, sometimes you need to be cruel to be kind. If you
don’t see your relationship heading in the right direction, and
things are flatlining, try and find his pulse again by telling him
you may move out.
Or, if you don’t
want to be as dramatic, why not try changing careers without letting
him know, or spending more time with the girls unannounced? Although
he knows that you’re always there for him, this will make him feel
that he isn’t being as included as he should be, and he’ll start
to wonder why. Keeping him on his toes in this way will make him
realise that he needs to put the effort in (by proposing!) so that he
can get your undivided effort and attention in the future.
Honesty is the best policy
Although there are
many hints and tricks you could use to get your other half to
propose, sometimes communication really is key to the success of a
relationship. If you want to get engaged, then why not talk to him
about why it’s important to you.
If you can tell him
why you want to marry him, then the likelihood is he’ll know how
much he means to you. Sometimes people have the same fears and doubts
within a relationship, but they are just too afraid to address them
with each other. By talking about your future together, he’ll know
that you want to be a part of it. By giving him that gentle nudge in
the right direction, you may just be engaged before you know it.
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