An Open Letter to a Bully

How ironic that the very day that I write about bullying, found here that I encounter a bully on the street.  Here's my open letter to him, the unknown coward:

Dear man passing in the van,

I saw you looking at me from your side mirrors, laughing to your friend as I passed by on the car park.  My chin went up a little higher and I walked past, ignoring you.

Stood at the bus stop I saw you pull out of the car park.  I knew what was coming.

There are a lot of ways to describe me.  I am a brunette.  I have blue eyes.  I am of medium height.  I have, I'm told, a nice smile when I'm happy.  If you look a little deeper, you find I'm a happy girl.  I'm loyal, I'm friendly and I will give anyone the time of day.  But as I said, I knew what was coming.

"Fat bitch!!!!" you shout at me as you drove past me.  Too cowardly to say anything when I passed beside your parked vehicle, you shout it out on the main street, driving past so I cannot respond.  Well yes, sir, I'm fat, and yes, sometimes I am a bitch.

If you had done this to me a year ago you would have hurt me.  I would have put a brave face on but cried when I got home.  Now though, I just feel sorry for you and the person you are.

So how do we describe you?  The villain in the piece?  Nasty, for shouting at a woman alone in the street, cowardly for not daring to say it when I passed you, insecure if you find it necessary to insult someone you don't know and pathetic, because, well you are.

So I am a fat sometimes bitch.  You are nasty, cowardly, insecure and pathetic.  Overall, comparing us both, I think I'd prefer to be fat.

Lots of love,

The Woman you heckled in the street.

 

Bullies - The Ugliest of Them All

There has been much publicity over the past week about a girl called Josie Cunningham who got breast implants through the NHS.  The story appears to be that she went to her GP, upset with how she looked and the GP has arranged for her to have implants.

This is not a one off occurrence.  Whilst I would prefer the NHS to offer counselling and support as opposed to surgical intervention, this type of thing has happened through the NHS as long as there has been cosmetic surgery.  It could be ears pinned back, a nose job, breast implants.

If the GP assesses that this issue is severely impacting your life, causing you depression, they are at liberty to arrange these procedures under the NHS.  It is nothing new.  This procedure has been offered to her, you cannot demand anything from the NHS. 

The only difference is in this case is that either she has sold her story to the papers, in a bid to attain the Page 3 career that she wants, or someone else has sold the story.

When people put a photograph of themselves in a newspaper or on the internet, or even if someone posts a picture of you, the “norm” seems to be for people to disassociate the person from their photograph. They become just an image, something to be ridiculed if you so wish without retribution. Any comment is "allowed" because they have "put themselves out there".

To date this girl has over a dozen Facebook hate pages set up against her, her photographs have been doctored in horrible ways and the comments written about her all over the internet have been vile.  No one deserves this kind of abuse.  There are other ways to comment on and disagree with a situation rather than spew venomous comments about her appearance. 

If you disagree with the NHS offering cosmetic surgery, take it up with the NHS.  Petitions for her “paying the money back” which I have seen are beyond ridiculous.  If you are going to set up a petition, set one up asking for a reform on cosmetic procedures if that is what you believe.  Use your head, not mob mentality.

Just image if you found one your mother/son/daughter/sister’s image online or your own, only then to find a long line of people criticising the way they looked.  Bullying someone online is exactly the same as shouting abuse at someone in the street.  It is just as bad, if not worse because you are hiding behind your internet connection like a coward.

Bullies are the true ugly ones.

The Winter/Spring Outfit

Given the weather over the past few years, I think that we need to create a new season for clothing.  Winter/Spring.  Clothes warm enough to keep away the chills whilst still dressing in a Spring style.

When I looked out of my curtains this morning I was greeted by beautiful bright blue skies, daffodils growing in the garden and frost on the pavement.  What’s a girl to do?

Well today I went for my ever faithful Billie & Blossom  +Dorothy Perkins dress with flower print, purple tights from @EvansClothing which I swear would survive a nuclear war, my new glorious Hush Puppy shoes, hat, scarf (unknown) and my new leather jacket from @So_Fab_Clothing

 

 

(From an old post, forgot to take a new photo!)

 

 

How do you work the Winter/Spring look?