Just the Way You Are

This is another in a series of "transformation" blogs I have been doing lately.  Sorry if it's getting boring for anyone who reads this, but I feel it important to write down and record my progress.

Looking back to where you have come from to where you are now is important I feel.  Not to look back and dwell on what was, but instead, realise how far along the journey you are now.

I was watching a vlog the other day done by the incomparable Betty Bee and she said something that really struck me and made me realise that although I have come a long way, part of my thinking is not as it should be.

On each step of the journey I have been on this year, from stopping smoking to starting a degree, from gaining confidence to banishing my all black wardrobe and introducing colour, the same thought has always been in the back of my head.

When I accomplish "this" I'll feel better about myself, when I do "that" I'll be happier.  What Betty Bee said was that you should like yourself the way you are right now, not when you have done this, this and changed this, but now.

What I realised after watching the vlog was that at the back of my mind, the thought has been that once I accomplish all my goals, once my head is straight, when I look a certain way, I will be "ready for the world", I'll be good enough.  

Looking back at one of my earlier posts, said that I was so close to the person I wanted to be that I could smell it.  Whilst that is true, I now realise that I have to be happy with the person I am now too.  You can't live your life waiting to be perfect.  Nothing is perfect.  Perfection doesn't exist.

Betty said that you should focus on the parts of yourself that you like and be happy with them, instead of focusing on the parts that you don't.

I'm applying a new mantra to live by:

My Shovel List

We have all heard of the bucket list, the things you want to do/accomplish before you die, but have you ever heard of the shovel list?

In Marian Keyes’ new book, The Mystery of Mercy Close her main character describes it as “A list of all the people and things I hate so much I want to hit them in the face with a shovel."

As this sounds more fun, and therapeutic than a bucket list, I thought that I would do my own.  Mine has sections though.  Turns out there are more people in need of a shovel in the face than I had originally though.

So in no particular order….

The “Too Happy/Nice therefore must be Psychopaths” List

All morning people

Bonnie Langford

Cliff Richard

Anthea Turner

The Politics List (This one is limited on the grounds I couldn’t possibly name everyone)

The current British Government

Mitt Romney

David Cameron (he deserves a special mention)

The Pop “Stars” List

Miley Cyrus

Justin Bieber

Geri Halliwell

Coldplay

Gwen Stefani

Madonna

The Collective List

The Catholic Church

The Pope (again, special mention required)

Reality TV contestants

Jehovah’s Witnesses

Chavs

Any/all fundamental extremists from any religion

Bigots

Jeremy Kyle viewers

The “People I don’t have an explanation for, they just NEED a shovel to the face” List

Pastor “Dickdonaldo” Maldonaldo

Sebastian “The |Cucumber” Vettel

Gwyneth Paltrow

Clowns (these need multiple shovels on the grounds that they are scary)

Jeremy Kyle

Louis Spence

I think that will do for now ;)

Unbelievable

I didn't write this.  But it says every single thing I want to today.  Please read and more than that, please sign the petition also linked below:

fleet street fox: Unbelievable.: IMAGINE a group of people that does the worst things you can think of. People who would like to concrete the countryside, build more nucle...

Stop the badger cull - e-petitions http://epetitions.direct.gov.uk/petitions/38257